I am sorry to hear about your experiences. I don't think you do hate all women, I think your hurt and exasperated and at the end of your tether. Perhaps you could see a counsellor on your own and come up with some strategies to deal with what's happening. I would have suggested couple counselling also but if your wife refuses to go I am not sure what else you can do.
I will say, you cannot change others, you can only change yourself, so if you don't like what is happening to you do what you need to do to change it.

Being so far from your daughter must also be hard, altho it is good she is still with family. I wish you all the best, and truely hope you are able to find a way through this difficult and complicated time.