I speak from experience. An abuser's anger has NOTHING to do with yu and everything to do with his issues. He is angry at all of the things yu mentioned. Abusers rarely change unless they admit their abuse and get into therapy (by themselves). Please don't be a murder statistic. Stay away from him. The Verbally Abusive Relationship saved my life and I believe should be required reading for everyone. Abuse is literally brainwashing; that is why it is so confusing. NO ONE can fix an abuser. you can go on-line and look up verbal abuse/patricia evans and get a lot of information that you need. What he is doing is called the "honeymoon" stage....remorse, saying they will never do it again. They will. If you stay with him, you might end up a statistic and die...scary but true. He is angry regarding his issues and is using you as a verbal and physical punching bag. You can also call the Domestic Violence Hotline. His age has nothing to do with his behavior.