They're weaker than we are dear! Have pity on them. They didn't learn all the useful things we did growing up. They're rather ignorant "blocks of wood"; balsa wood at that (somewhat easily carved).

I've told the story before of when my husband was going to take his youngest son swimming and was getting his gear/suit, etc. to take while I was dressing or something but shaving my legs and I jokingly said something about having to shave my legs in the first place because of MEN. He looked at me confused and couldn't for the life of him understand that MEN and pleasing them since time immemorial are why women shave their legs (and men don't). So he wandered off to the pool shaking his head :-) He comes home and is horrified because he was in the pool, went up to one side where a woman was sitting and she was European and they don't shave their legs! He was "disgusted" and couldn't understand why (since it is just "legs" and men don't shave theirs, etc.). We both laughed forever and now I can use that, just say to him, "it's like the shaving the legs thing" to help educate him.

But "my" man isn't selfish so willing to learn/biddable :-) Sorry you have had such bad luck with yours, Rhap.