@ElsaMars, thanku for your post, my youngest is going for his diagnosis at the end of the month and I have been worrying it would be more of a hinderance than a help. He too has buckets of charm and a very sweet nature especially to those younger than him. He also has a wonderful rapport with those older than him but really struggles with his peer group.
It is encouraging to hear a positive result from someone being diagnosed when I have heard so many negative outcomes.