Surely, some high functioning autism/Aspergers people are charming. But most mothers thing of their sons of of charismatic. If anyone likes them, it is their mothers (except for mine, who was incapable of showing motherly love when she was 'normal' and now is a ghost of the person she was).

When you as a man become infatuated with a woman, with or without Aspergers and maybe insecure about your charisma, it doesn't matter what mothers, friends of mothers, old ladies, or any other woman things; the only thing that counts for your ego and self-confidence is what that one girl things.

I recognize some of myself in what ElsaMars tells us about her sons. But I really wonder if the girls ElsaMars's son runs into really see what ElsaMars says.

In part, it is about selling yourself. But when you pride yourself in being modest, inconspicuous, polite and not polarizing or provocative, do people really notice you? My weakest point must have been selling myself to others. For a long time, I was completely indifferent to selling myself to others. Probably partly because I, from a very young child, recognized I was bad at it. People for sure don't gravitate to what they cannot see, even if they would like it if they could.