I've been dating my now fiance for almost a year and we're getting married next month. In the past year I have also discovered that I have depression and anxiety and it's getting worse. (Anxiety has increased to panic attacks, depression makes me feel like I don't want anyone really close to me-if my mom can't even love me why should a person who is relatively new in my life). My mom has said things like she doesn't want to be involved with my future children if I marry him, that I am making a huge mistake and it will come back to bite me, that she doesn't want to be around me because I remind her of him and this "bad" situation. She's been pretty supportive my whole life and family has always been really important to me and a rock I could always lean on. Now I feel pretty abandoned and isolated. My fiance is a great guy, everyone else in my family likes him including my grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, but my mom is having an extremely hard time with it and as a result is using desperate measures/words to try and stop me. (She also hasn't gotten to know him at all and won't let him in to get to know him).
I've distanced myself from her a lot to stay away from the toxic situation but it still really hurts that my mom doesn't want to be around me and is making this time that should be happy into a miserable experience mixed with a little happiness.