Of course women may be attracted to thoughtful/nice/kind men, but how do you know a man is thoughtful/nice/kind if he is shy and awkward? Being shy and awkward is a wall for initiating interactions in the first place. People judge quickly from how others present themselves. And the assumption here is that there are thoughtful/nice/kind but shy and awkward guys, and shallow but charismatic and confident guys, but if you find a thoughtful/nice/kind man who is charismatic and confident, would you still choose the shy and awkward guy even if he is thoughtful/nice/kind?