Kashi might say what he has said to me directly -
Dear growly,
I have only known you a short time but I find you quite likable despite your fears. I would love to get into your head and erase all of that self judgement and self hatred. You can do this and I am confident that you will be ok. I'm honestly not sure how to help you yet but I wished you loved dbt skills as much as I do. God I love dbt. How can you not love dbt ? Anyways I'll try to sell you hard on it just give me time. I have impulses to invite you over such as thanksgiving but I know boundary wise that would have been a terrible idea for both of us. I've said we can be friendly but we can't be friends.
-Kashi