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Originally Posted by wiretwister
I have learned the hard way to never make "plans" ... if you make no promises you can not be " blamed " when you can not keep them .... I made quite a few people mad over plans changed at the last min ... at not being dependable .... so I isolate myself ....
it is very hard for others to understand that ... they just do not understand ... and most never will ....
sorry for your pain ... I wish I could make it go away ... but alas I can not ...
be strong friend ....
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Thank you so much. For me, even when I tried to tell the person I can't commit to anything yet, I still get backlash. So it's like damned if I do, damned if I don't. I can't be all things to all people, and I wish some would realize how hard it can be for me to keep up when I'm unstable emotionally. It seems to be always about them.
I understand that could be because my best friend has issues involving abandonment and trauma, but she can be needy to the point of it having an unhealthy affect on me, even triggering my BP symptoms. I just wish she would understand better and also realize it's not okay to attack me if she's going through a hard time. I don't do that to her.
Plus, it takes a lot for anyone to take time off of work to go on a trip, and it's ten times as hard being depressed and finding it to be a struggle to go to the work or even do something as little as going to a store. Hopefully when I talk to her more about this, she'll begin to understand, but now I can't 100% trust her that this pattern won't continue.