A few months ago, when T said I was e-mailing too much, she'd initially suggested that I try typing up an e-mail to her, but not sending it. I mentioned this to marriage counselor, and he said maybe I could also try writing how I wish she'd respond. And then he added that I could also try writing what I'd be afraid she'd say. I have yet to do that actual exercise, but what you said here reminds me of it. Like, I worry she and MC are thinking certain things, but in reality, they'd probably respond completely differently. I suspect what's really in their head might be someplace in between.