No he's not shy and awkward, but neither would I call him fun, charismatic, or witty. He was serious, direct, and confident-seeming but not showy, cocky, or charming. I married him because I believed he was honest, straightforward, respectful, intelligent, goodhearted, and the other things I needed in a partner. Women are human beings, as diverse as any. My point is simply that it's absurd to blame the feelings OP expressed on women in general rather than looking inward.