I cannot commit and feel I'm doing people a favor by being upfront about it. My brother ripped into me for cancelling after I warned him I might have to and I told him to kick rocks (using stronger language). I HATE that I cannot commit and that I'm often seen as flaky despite my best efforts not to be. When I recently discussed some of my symptoms with my friend I got a feeling she got a little scared and I asked her if it bothered her that I talk openly....she said that if she didn't know me my whole life my symptoms might scare her but since she's seen some of the things happen that caused my symptoms she could never hold them against me and she knows me too well not to trust me. That was relieving.

I think true friends are too important to give up on so I would talk with this friend and see if they can learn to be more understanding and supportive. Of course we are going to disappoint people occasionally but hopefully they care more about our stability than hurt feelings....hopefully we can help them grow and they can help us feel safe. (((Hugs))))