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Originally Posted by lolagrace
Can I offer you an observation that maybe you should consider in your personal relations with people? You have a tendency to come across in your posts as having a very large chip on your shoulder. You complain about the maturity level of the people you work with, yet you write about other people in a very gossipy, hostile, and condescending manner, you call people names, and you sound extremely immature yourself. Note: I'm not saying you "are" those things, but you do come across that way through your descriptions. I wonder if you are coming across that way to people around you, they are sensing judgment and hostility; and therefore, they are keeping their distance.
I don't say these things to be rude, but to perhaps help you see what others may be picking up on about you that seems to create constant problems with your coworkers. You are going to have to deal with customer and coworkers and managers no matter where you go to work, so I hope you will have better luck in not personalizing everything that goes on with others.
NONE of us get along with every person we work with. There will ALWAYS be groups of workers who group together, usually several different groups. The trick is to not take it personally if you aren't part of "that" group. Just find a few people you do get along with well, and learn to let the rest roll off your back. Otherwise, you'll be miserable pretty much anywhere you work.
Best of luck on your new job venture. Hope it works better for you.
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Thanks for your honesty. I'm not rude, judgemental, or anything like that. I truly am a nice person in real life. I do get mad at times when people treat me in rude and nasty matter. I was NOT expecting to be their friend at all.
I was nice to them. I said hi and bye and asked them if they needed help at times. I only expected them to be polite and not go out of their way to shun me and stare at me like a freak just for saying bye to them. Why am I being seen as the problem here when I was nothing but nice to everyone?
And what about that girl who called me fat indirectly? How could I not get upset at that? That's harassment. I did nothing to those people at work. I was never anything but nice to them. I didn't care about fitting in or making friends. I was nice to everyone though.
I didn't expect everyone to like me, but to be treated so rudely is uncalled for. Why am I being blamed for being a part of the problem? Of course get mad when people treat me badly. Who wouldn't be upset at being treated that way? I don't go around calling people names and insulting them in real life. I keep to myself and I just tell my friends a few things and vent on here too.
They never even gave me a chance. One girl laughed at me for trying to say hi to her. So why am I being seen as being the hostile one? Did I laugh at anyone or call anyone fat? No. I didn't even say a thing about them when this all happened, so perhaps they thought that they could bully me and get away with it. I'll never let that happen again.
Keep in mind that a lot of young girls can be immature, and often are. Sorry, but in general that's true. I hate to generalize, but I did some research on this company and a LOT of other people have said the same thing, that a lot of the people there are rude and immature as well as cliquey. See what is written on indeed.com and you'll see what I mean. It's not just me having a chip on my shoulder.
I find that people often treat introverts and shy people, or people who are different in general badly. Or at least shun them w/o giving them a chance or trying to even get to know them. It's not fair at all. So that's partially why I'm upset. I try hard to be nice and open, but I'm often ignored and shunned by most people. It makes me want to give up and not even bother trying to be nice anymore.
Since the people at this new job seem nice and mature, I will give them a chance. I said hi to a guy in the office today. See, it's not me. And not everyone is like this towards me. So your opinion of me is a bit off. I do get upset on my posts at times since I am a sensitive person.
Wouldn't you be mad to if you were me? I was being treated like crap by some of the people there for no apparent reason. Who calls people fat in front of them? Really, who does that? And I'm hostile or whatever? I don't get that. No offense, just saying. And who ignores people who try to say hi and bye to them? Rude people, that's who.
I did talk to some of the people at work who were nice to me. Most of the customers were fine. I just have a hard time dealing with rude people at times. I don't deserve to be treated like crap for not being like everyone else or for not being perfect, outgoing or whatever.