From my life experience i have found that when someone blames another for where they are in life or the conditions that their relationships are conducted in, that it would be most productive to look within to find out why they are attracted to those type of people in the first place and what within them attracts those type of people to them. You are describing one type of a gender, not the whole gender in general. If those have been your experiences with all men then maybe its time to ponder why.