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Originally Posted by xRavenx
I can understand it's confusing to try to make sense of her behavior. You may never get the answers from her as to why she's so inconsistent. Regardless of what the reasons are, her inconsistent behavior and perceived lack of interest in the friendship is enough reason to scale back on reaching out to her....especially since you tried bringing this issue to her attention, and she failed to attempt to make changes.
It would likely be healthier to begin to shift your focus on to others who are for most part, consistent and show more interest in the friendship. If your friend makes changes, it is up to her to show you through her actions. Since she hasn't after all this time, it's probably best to just move on, let her reach out if she finds the friendship worth sustaining, and turn your attention elsewhere. Just my two cents.
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I agree. She just doesn't really care. And even when we do hang out, she seems uninterested and awkward. I agree, I may just scale back and not bother reaching out to her. The whole thing about her having too much anxiety or just too busy is more of an excuse in my opinion. She is not really that busy, she only works on a few days and when she does, it is only for half a day, usually a late afternoon to early night shift. No one is so busy that they can't respond to a text for a month or so.
She claims to get anxious, and someone else said the same thing, but I think it is still partially an excuse since she was never this bad. Yes she was always inconsistent, but there was a time when she was just a tad better. She socializes well too so she can't be that anxious. I get anxious too but I don't flake out on people the way she does. Just excuses in my opinion. I hope one day she will treat others well and show she cares but right now, she doesn't.