I don't know. For me, I'd decide I was projecting and turn it all around (I'm trying to repel him because I feel repulsive and don't think I "deserve" his acceptance/care). Then I'd work on the I-feel-repulsive nonsense. My cat's sitting next to me, wants and needs me, I can't be too repulsive can I? Why should I repel myself if other's don't?