Although the OP can hypothetically find someone who would accept him as shy and socially awkward, dismissing qualities like being confident, funny, and extrovert as important qualities in the social life and especially in relationships, isn't exactly consistent with the reality, in general (finding exceptions doesn't mean it's not true). I sensed this (dismissing these qualities) was the message of many posts in this thread. I've been shy and socially awkward whole my life, and no matter how hard I try, the acceptance rate was zero, even with guys I thought we have common interests (e.g., meetups). People don't have the time and energy to change others, or for people who make their lives less comfortable and less fun and easy, and this is particularly true for girls. I get that. It's the way it is. Again, there is no absolute rule for this, but in general, it's true.