So leigheas, just so you know this is one of the challenges that people who struggle with PTSD/CPTSD have. It's that constant question of "why am I letting this bother me?" but the reality is that it's not that simple in that you are making a decision to be upset instead these emotional challenges just come over a person who is struggling and that can lead to feeling angry at "self" yet also getting angry when someone else says, "just don't let it bother you or don't allow it to bother you".