Well, I'm glad you're here.

It is hard when we are so angry and upset. I messed up one of my hands a few days ago -- not SH, but result of a meltdown of terror, anger and frustration (counter's quite sturdy, turns out), so it is quite fresh in mind how much in-the-moment I can't process outside thoughts.
I'm sorry about the SH. And that you didn't hear from any of them. Now that it is a few days later -- even though you are still pretty hurt and pissed about it -- do you think you could contact on a more neutral thing? Like getting together to work on the jeep(?)
It seems like a situation where a lot of assumptions could have been made all around, and maybe that's a way to ease in and talk a bit? Or not. Sometimes I need to do some "normalizing" activity before being able to talk about something. Just a thought.
Sending good thoughts your way.