Hello Etcetera: I'm sorry you are struggling with these mood swings. I don't know as I have any particularly useful suggestions for you. If you're able to be "self-aware" & leave a situation before you do something you don't need to do, that is a major accomplishment from my perspective. It is SO easy, in those types of situations, to get swept away by the heat of the moment & just strike out... verbally if not physically.

There is a Buddhist practice you might find helpful. It is referred to as "compassionate abiding". (One doesn't have to be a Buddhist to use it.) Here is a nice description of the practice from a mental health perspective:

https://mindsetdoc.wordpress.com/201...e-abiding-101/