> acceptance is great, but it is not always enough.

not always enough for what?

this whole idea of individualism and self-sufficiency and 'i don't need anyone i have myself' doesn't really match the point that humans are social beings.

why do kids have parents if they can just amuse and entertain and accept themselves?

because they internalise that which is provided by others, thats why.

soothing
acceptance
pride

those kinds of things. how am i going to learn those by way of a good talking to? what on earth would trying to internalise those things even look like? do i screw up my face? do i repeat in the mirror 100 times a day 'i am a worthwhile individual'? deeper... deeper... they are encoded deeper than that. the thing that is needed is experience with others.

i'm thinking... that it might be a little like staying in a substandard / abusive relationship, Rap. good therapists are hard to find. but ones who we don't fit with so well... really can %#@&#! us over...