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she's promising what I always wanted from her

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I think you have every right to feel unsure about this particular relationship. She has repulsed you many times, so it hasn't been all you.
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Since my T is primarily psychodynamic, therapy is supposed to find unmet developmental needs and fill them through the therapeutic relationship

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How long have you been in therapy with this person, and she's just now producing?
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she gets frustrated and angry about my lack of progress is because she does care about me.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Sorry, I'm still not buying it. A good T doesn't take things personally, and certainly not "because they care." The more a T cares, the more they will keep the relationship within it's therapeutic boundaries.

I think the question here is WHAT do you trust T with? Certainly she has not earned your trust in all matters, whether she states that or not, imo. You do trust her to give her opinion, to keep telling you where you're doing wrong, etc.
This is not a safe relationship, imo, the way you describe it. And now I know what you will say, because your T has conditioned you to blame yourself for the lack of safe relationship. Not so.

How many really safe people do you have in your real life? Couldn't that be why you have limited trust and relationships with them? If you don't have the time or energy to really invest in finding out whether someone you meet is trustworthy, it's only natural to distance yourself until that time you do (have time.)

Maybe you are trying to work within the context of a modality that doesn't suit you now? Might be time to change therapies, shift gears and find someone who will see where you are progressing, and encourage you in it.

If you wish to improve your relationships, I think posting here more, encouraging others here more, chatting and opening up more, will help you do that. I'm not saying you need to improve your relationships here, because everyone I know here likes you. But if you wish to utlize PC to learn how to recognize "safe" people IRL, then that would be fine with me.