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Nov 28, 2016, 05:56 AM
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Grand Poohbah
Community Liaison
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Member Since: Jan 2011
Location: Surrey, SE London, UK
Posts: 1,628
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Dear Ember. You know, it made my heart ache when I read your message AND, I for one (and I know others in this thread) DON'T consider your message as a ''rant''.  No, more of a silent wish for all these people in your life who simply refuse to ''get it''. Either they can't, or more to the point WON'T, even consider your feelings and what this is doing to you.  I know it's very easy for us to say like ''stuff the doubters'', but its extremely difficult IRL to actually truly feel that.
I DO know the grief and heartache gender issues bring because my husband (partner as we couldn't marry) went to hell and back in the 1960's when it was a TOTALLY TABOO subject, I think illegal also in some aspects. The unwanted ''coming out'' of April Ashley in a hugely popular national gossip newspaper insured the ''shock tactic'' which stuffy English public reacted to with contempt. I must say here that April herself was mortified as it was NOT her choice to ''come out''.
Everyone here is of course correct, you have to please yourself, at the end of the day it will be you who lives with you. I hate my imperfections/mental health issues/body dysmorphia etc etc etc and now ''old age'' LOL    and I put my ''happy'' (??) acceptable self out there because I've found to my cost and sadness that that ''them'' do NOT wanna know when your down!!!!! By my ''happy'' self I mean I slap on more makeup than I like, stick on the hairpieces, and SMILE SMILE no matter what. 
LOVE and HUGS, as ever. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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