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Originally Posted by Shadix
It seems that in almost all of the social groups I get involved with, I am never valued or admired. People seem to only value guys who are witty, charismatic and fun to be around. I am mentally slow and boring. If any of you have seen the new Ghostbusters movie, I seem to play the exact same role as the hunky dumb guy. Some girls seem to actually find me physically attractive, but as soon as they meet me all attraction goes out the window. The girls I hang out with at work are nice to me, but they are always poking fun at me and it is obvious they do not value my friendship or care if I am around. I see the way they treat other male friends who are more witty, charismatic and fun. It is completely different. Their fake kindness means nothing to me. I want to be valued. I want to feel like I am totally awesome and I want them to facilitate that. If they want to keep making me feel like I am nothing special, then what use do I have for them?
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Hi Shadix. A few ideas come to mind. Firstly, if somebody makes fun of you, just say nothing & move away if you can. Secondly, maybe work is not a good place to make girlfriends. Maybe you could just work on being a nice person. As for having people think you are "totally awesome", you have to earn that. Finally, how is your away from work life? I'm wondering if you could study, get hobbies & interests, & focus on having an enjoyable and interesting life & build yourself up to have something substantial to offer. The right girls will eventually find you. Oh, and don't try too hard to win the girls.