same here sidony! i specifically looked for a male T, i don't relate well to women at all. In our first session we just chatted because i was still "shopping." In our second session he took notes about everything i said, and it was a basic history sort of thing. Since then he has never written down a thing during session, he writes notes afterwards. He also has the most amazing memory. But on the note about the restaurant... who cares if they write it down as long as you get what you ordered?

it's all about preferences and personal experience... my first T i ever met was the same sex and i hated it instantly. There really is no rule. If this feels uncomfortable then "try out" a female T and see if that works better.

nothing is more important than the relationship