its really not breaking up over pot its breaking up because he doesnt take your feelings seriously. im going through the same thing (although my boyfriend doesnt have a problem with drugs) he feels like he should be able to if he wants to and he is only 23. which i totally understand but am scared it would turn into that. be he has said if i dont want him to he wont. so thats a different story.

you dont sound like a druggie so you cant really understand how the brain works while youre on drugs. unless the person wants to change himself, drugs will always be more important than anything else. its sad to say but its true.

i have been begging my dad for years to stop drinking. i threatened to never talk to him again. but alcohol and drugs were still more important than his own daughter.

do yourself a favor and leave before it hurts even worse. i can see the road its going down and its not a fun one. you cant change people, they have to change themselves. i know its hard to walk away from someone you care about and watch them mess up their lives but they wont listen to you if theyre really into it. and telling him is all you can do. good luck and i hope you can get the strength to leave. its hard to do but at least you see that there is a problem.