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Originally Posted by Rostou
How about you stop being narcissistic & settle for just being liked? And just be yourself. Not everybody is awesome, admirable, charismatic or fun. How about you put your ego & fantasies out of the way & just be real. There is a place for simple, decent people with some humility and balance.
The normal think is to hang out where you are welcome. I didn't say admired. If somebody truly thinks you are worthless, only hang out with them if you gain enough from doing so, if that is possible.
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If it is narcissistic to want your peers to find you likable and intelligent, then I am a card carrying narcissist. I can never accept being liked but looked down on as a socially awkward, incompetent loser. In fact, I am not sure if I would consider that "being liked". In my experience, most people dislike those that they do not consider admirable. Some people are just nice even to those they dislike. Then when you throw in having a brother who is witty and charismatic, it only becomes less acceptable for me to be unlikable and incompetent.