I think what "Gravity" has said makes a lot of sense. I've been told by several experienced psychologists that one should be seeing a therapist of the same gender to the one that you most struggle with in your 3-D world.

So, if for example you were abused by a man then seeing a male therapist would get you on the way to healing, so you could make a "healthy" relationship with a male. just like if your mother is the one you struggle with then a female therapist would be best if getting along with other women is your goal and/or putting those old feelings of upset at rest. and like "alexandra" pointed out-- it could be that both genders are somewhat of a struggle-- then I'd go with the lesser struggle to begin with and graduate to the harder one later.

I think it depends on your goals and what it is you wish to overcome, cope with and/or understand.

mandy