Well, that's also because responses are self-centered and logical.

You cannot say to someone obsessed about his brother "Stop being obsessed." It is not a conscious decision.

And someone told him he should accept being a mundane person, liked by some, not liked by others, admired by no one. I for one know I cannot do that. If I look at the lives of random and imagine me in their place, I feel strangled. If this is something that must be cured, I cannot imagine how it might be.