Wants2, I understand what you're saying. Maybe not is so many words, I've tried first, telling my husband what my priorities are as an FYI. I've asked him several days in a row if he's going to clean out the shed "today" and hopefully find the tree. He says "Yes" but something else always comes up that he "doesn't get around to it." To me, it's just avoidance or he'd rather not do it. He never says so, though!

Today, he "says" he cleaned out the shed while I was gone and "says" the tree is nowhere to be found. He called me on my cell and said to pick up a tree. I did; a pre-lit one like I wanted! I had to ask him four times to bring the tree in the house so it wouldn't get stolen, too. (We're assuming that's what happened.) It's not like I wanted him to get out of bed or out of the tub or off the pot or stop eating. He was walked passed the tree at least twice! It's to the point that I'm wondering if he's not punishing me in his passive/agressive way!

As for my son, the more I think about it, the more sure I am that he's going through depression. He's handling his problems like his dad does. He crawls into his "cave" and reads. My son has every reason to be depressed. For as long as he's been with his wife, he's been going like a house afire trying to keep up with her and her family's demands. He can't make them happy because he was brought up totally different than she was. Living next door to his in-laws doesn't help matters any.

It's going to be tough knowing just how to put the right words to my DIL so that she doesn't think I'm lording it over her. Lot of it is her doing but I can't tell her that or I'll get her mad and defensive and nothing will get accomplished.

ARGH! As if I don't have enough problems!