I know I find it hard to deal with guys sometimes, but it's things like this that make me glad I'm bi-sexual [meaning no offence]. I think that part of mens selfishness is a product of society; we have to take care of the kids, clean the house, keep a job, and look stunning and athletic, but men get time off after work, and it's not their job? Sometimes theres nothing you can do about it. I learned a long time ago, if after years and years, people won't change for you at all, it's time to let go. Not eays, not always fun.

So I think it's you're turn to be selfish; think about you and what makes you happy and go with it!