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Originally Posted by ElsaMars
The OP is right in many ways. The way you are treated by others and your "standing" in society are correlated. When people treat us a certain way it can create projected self fulfilling prophecies and begin doing subtle but effective things to confirm these prophecies and stories we are told about ourselves. We then need therapy to help us break these chains and find out where they all began and how and why the narrative keeps repeating in your life.
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^^^YES YES YES. This is something I am very well aware of and I do often suspect it may be at play. There is a phenomenon where you will tend to behave in a way that conforms to the way people treat you. For example, Ioften sense that people treat me like I am socially awkward or incompetent. Like they are nice to me in a condescending way. Almost like they are talking to a child. Perhaps them treating me this way causes me to behave in the way they expect? Also, it could be a two way street. Maybe since I am expecting this treatment from people, that causes them to treat me this way.
It's funny, people say "you can't control what people think of you" but what if what people think of us can control us?