I am noticing that the fall out from yesterday's T session is a huge old faceslap of denial (DID? Pffft... history or abuse? Not me...) but I guess even in the denial I am able to notice things.
Just realized that two members of our front group - the group we consider ourselves to know really well - I haven't really 'known' at all. It's like that movie, the sixth sense... at the end of the movie you find out he's a ghost, and when you look back on it you can see the evidence was there all along.
I've been looking at this one of us all along, and never realized who she is to our system until now... I see now I have been looking in all the wrong places for the reason we are stuck here in this awful situation.

ETA - ermigawd, so many things are falling into place. Can't believe I didn't see this before. I must have been completely blind to have not realized this.