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Old Nov 30, 2016, 01:07 AM
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Originally Posted by Parva View Post
I'm not sure how to phrase this....so I'll do it using my experience. This is an extension of the T on vacation thread.

I'm unable to accept (or to use thera-speak, 'internalize') positive sentiments, thoughts, statements, events about myself. They don't mean a thing to me. Some of it I rationalize away as the other person being naïve in some capacity, some is just 'water off a duck's back', but it's all about as impactful as getting slapped with a wet noodle. The problem is that I can't go back to these things for support; there's no well of feeling valued to carry me through difficult times. There are a lot of off-shoots to this, e.g., it's hard to accept that my T cares about me outside of the sacred 50 min windows of time.

Does this resonate with any of you? Has it gotten better over time?
What stuck out to me is be thankful you have a T that cares that much. Most have such rigid boundaries that you feel like you shouldn't even be there, that it's an inconvenience to them to have to see you. I would talk to the T if it bothers you that much. Maybe they can back off a little, I expect it is a hard balance to strike
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