one thing i found that has tremendously helped me.....
but just my opinion....

i have searched endlessly through endless people to find and replace what i probably never had. the faces became meaningless....i just wanted to hold something (for me, unconditional love, safety, etc...) that could give me what i lacked.
through years of therapy and reading, i have discovered that the "hole" inside of me can be patched, can be partially filled by others, can be somewhat mended. But i started looking on the inside for someone to heal me...looking to my own parts and strengths and my own maternal instinct...to give to me what i could not find and somehow did not get.....
in other words, i am slowly learning to comfort myself and fill that hole. I go to therapy and no doubt, she helps fill it, but it's more like she 's a model of what i have to do for myself. I understand that desire to stop looking. But it's really right inside of you. You have to slowly give yourself what you never had. It is possible.

I used to struggle with this daily. Now it is weekly. and once i accepted that no human could ever fill the void, it was a release....the hunt didn't have to be so crucial, it was inside of me. i just had to learn how to unleash it.

alot of words, i know, when you are hurting.
i know how you feel..............