Selina91, I am not sure that anything i say will be any help but here goes, I was also sexually abused by my bioligical brothers, and other family members when i was young. Back then you never told. I am over 50 now and still can't talk about it.My family is very disfunctional, and my parents were alcoholics. If you have told your family, and they haven't made any arrangements to make things easier for you, then you might decide not to go, and if you haven't told your family, you might need to talk to them about it for yourself. This problem won't go away.