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Originally Posted by Artchic528
While I understand your frustrations, you have to understand that anyone coming out of an abusive relationship will need time and a gentile approach to things like sex. It sounds as if your trying, but there things you could be doing for her that you aren't right now.
If she doesn't like you flirting that way with her, then by all means, respect her and stop doing it. She has been abused and such remarks could be triggering to her. Being in a relationship isn't all about you, but about each other. It seems you need to talk to her more about how you feel, and about how she feels.
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We do talk a lot about our feelings and we love each other very much. I told her if she ever felt uncomfortable with my level affection that she is too be blunt and tell me. Which she has done a couple times and I stopped immediately. So I've been going off her response. I do feel a bit selfish at times, because i know she is a tolerating it a bit for my sake though. I love her and want to see her happy. So when she is depressed I can't help but want to show affection.
She hasn't told me not to flirt like that. She has bipolar 2 and I know she was bullied in highschool a lot. Which ended up with her being in a mental hospital for a month. Then her last two and only boyfriends were abusive and I would love to meet them. So when I hear all this I feel like she needs to a warm heart and teddy bear to cuddle (me). I've been through similar circumstances as her and I would've loved it if someone walked up too me. Asked me if I was okay and even if I said yes. They would know I was lying and hug me. Her life has been devoid of affection for so long that I feel that she is owed more than I'm used to giving. So I push myself to give more