Hi Artchic, I can identify with being a people pleaser and I'm also very nurturing and wonder if you might be too, many women are. Like you I'm happiest when those I love are taken care of, it feels like I'm hard wired that way - that to me is how I express love.

I think this is healthy as long as it's not at the expense of your own needs, and that you are also open to receiving the love that you give to others. Others may want to nurture you too and allowing them to care for you is an act of generosity itself. It's a two way thing.