You know what phrase I really hate? "You need to snap out of it!" "Come on, now, your life isn't so bad. There are others that are worse off" and "Start moving....get out and exercise....you will feel better!" All of these come from my family. They have a way of turning things around and making me feel like my depression and self harm is my fault, that I have some sort of control over it. So....I totally understand where you are coming from. Totally.