I see current T at 8.30pm on Sunday.
I'm not her last appointment -- she has another client at 9.30pm (apparently her last for the day).
She also does Saturdays (and other days of the week).
I'm almost 100% sure that she has one or more (small) kids.
She however does not advertise as having these hours. In fact when I first contacted her asking specifically about evening and weekend sessions, she said she has them only episodically -- so, even for the first session, I waited for almost a month to see her because she didn't have any slots.
However, somehow since then, a weekly slot magically materialized -- I have no idea why its existence was a state secret until I met her.
Former T on the other hand advertises as being flexible with hours and having evening / weekend appointments.
Except when I actually needed them (when my schedule stopped being flexible), she made a big deal out of it and veered between being passive-aggressive about it and saying that her agreeing to do them was a sign of "our special connection" (this when I was talking about leaving). And, this despite the fact that I offered to switch to fortnightly appointments since she said she could only do weekends every other week -- she got all pissy about it and said she'd prefer to keep me seeing weekly.
I realized later that she was rather resentful about it (and lots of other things about me pissed her off as well as I see now) but somehow didn't seem to be able to work it out in any non-dysfunctional way.
ETA: When I was T-shopping, a couple of Ts asked me to take a hike (one in fact said there was no point even in a first session) if all I could do was off-hours. And, a couple of others offered to see me first and then figure it out -- these folks usually offered me evening slots (I decided against therapy with them for other reasons). So, it seems that Ts seem to have some hesitation about advertising this stuff and even when they do, there's no guarantee that they'll stick to it (a la former T).
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