Unfortunately, I have heard H say all of the things above to our children that I pulled out of your quote. Won't say what the specific issues were, only that your problems are real and their concerns were legitimate as well.

It is terrible when people disregard others feelings and problems. They think that problems can be solved merely by burying their heads in the sand. I am sorry your family treats you this way.

Part of my serious low self esteem and shame comes from the guilt I feel about the times I allowed H to talk to them this way. I hope that doesn't trigger you. I wish children/teenagers/adults did not have to endure this type of treatment ever!