The family my client lives with is a family friend and they are totally good with him coming over. It's a very laid back atmosphere not the typical home care scenario. Ex. They often invite me to stay for dinner after work, she borrowed my car once when her's broke down (the mom of the family not the client). That is a good idea to set certain times wherever possible.
I think acknowledging the anxiety and accepting it would be extremely helpful. As of right now I feel it coming and then try to shove it back down before it gets too much and that usually fails. And then I have negative thoughts towards myself b/c I should have been stronger.
We've been dating for a year. But the problem here is definitely with me not him.
I do have some abandonment issues b/c of my Mom...