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Old Dec 02, 2016, 02:51 PM
JoeS21 JoeS21 is offline
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Originally Posted by wildflowersinmytea View Post
How old is she and how well do you know her?

I would be direct and say, hey I like you but I don't understand why you have these outbursts - did something happen with someone else that maybe makes you react like this? Because I want to be supportive but I don't understand your anger towards me.

I can rewire some of my triggers with time but I need to understand what they are and want to do it before there's a chance.
I need to be very careful about saying stuff like that... I didn't mention it, but others speculate that she has borderline personality disorder.... She prefers for people to figure her out and does better when others react to her feelings and prioritize those over other stuff (feelings >>> logical communication). I am learning to screen all of my communication for any hint of condescending or patronizing affect. That being said, I wish I could just ask like that and get the answer. That would be great!
Thanks for this!
Bill3