I think it's been force fed into many of us who have been abused that we are of "no value" if we do not "accomplish" anything, do not "change", or do not "change enough"...

Maybe the question is who is qualified or entitled to judge these things.......?

Sometimes we are the harshest judges of ourselves.

(And of course abusers, the FOO, PUS etc.
(Family of origin, parental units, who in my case were not exactly supportive or true.. understatement)