The reason your image of yourself changes and you begin to feel bad or weak is because often we are told to think it's a bad thing when we struggle and to either "man up" or "put your big girl panties on and just".

Unfortunately, human beings can be selfish, mean, critical and insensitive. Often people only know how to feel good about themselves if they feel they are better than. It never occurs to a lot of people that strength and value can actually come from developing strengths and helping others do the same.