I just want to comment that I know, I KNOW!, there are nice men out there. I have relatives who are wonderful men, who have been thru divorces and the dating scene and are wonderful husbands now. I look at my two grandsons, who are being raised conscientiously by my daughter and her husband, and I think, believe, they will be nice men when they grow up!
I think I am at fault for having met the men I dated thru the Internet. Anyone can be ANYTHING they wish to present themselves to be on the Internet. Another fault I exhibited was being too willing to accommodate them and overlook brilliant RED flags. I think this was because I was deprived of male company for 20 years of unhappiness and thought I could make something work afterwards. Naive on my part.
In conclusion, I just want to say that I know not all men are selfish.
Patty