There is a lot of dysfunction passed from one generation to the next. I have had some BERY bad luck and met more than my fair share of abusers. Years ago I was told that the first person I was attracted to in a room was probably the worst person for me. I began dating what I thought were different kind of men but the results were often similar. Most women I've talked to have been subjected to abuse at the hands of someone. Most men have met some female who harmed them. The world is just filled with sick people who keep passing down dysfunction they learned from a previous generation and very few people ever receive help for it. Most people need some form of therapy to work at least a few things out....but it creates stigma so nobody gets the help they need and just infects a new generation.

(((Hugs))). I'm sorry you have been put through this and met so many abusive people.