I am so sorry for all of the posters in this thread, you all suffered so much abuse. Please know none of this was ever your fault either. Often a person is taught abuse is normal and because of that they don't recognize the signs of an abusive person and people who are abusive can start out by acting "kind or nice". Abusive/bad people can be found in all kinds of places, they always tend to pick places where they know they will be around others they can victimize too. Many of these individuals have the ability to appear well educated and "safe" in communities when they not but instead are predators.