During my first marriage when I was pregnant I watched Jerry Springer or some show like that with husband who were pissed off at their wives for gaining weight while pregnant. I told my husband about it and he said "they have a right, it's disgusting for women to turn into pigs just because they are pregnant ". I had gained a lot of weight and it was obvious he was speaking to me. I should have known and divorced him then. When I showed him our son's foot moving across my belly he screamed "that's disgusting " and backed away in fear. Lol. What a nin -come-poop.

When I gained weight on meds with my current husband I felt he treated me differently. He says it was my imagination and I did feel very bad about myself and physically ill so maybe I did imagine it. Not sure. But he was never outright rude and he said "take your meds, I will love you at any size, you are always beautiful to me". I think he believes it when he says it but I'm not heavy when he says it either.

My point is, I do know how much it can hurt to be accused and belittled about something you don't have as much control over as someone assumes.

I plan to work on my weight....FOR ME.....so I can feel better. I hope you do whatever makes you happiest. Staying at your current weight, gaining more or losing some....you're great as you are in my book.