I would suggest talking to her. A serious, long talk. Your sex life was never good? I don't think I could marry someone if we didn't click in the bed. That's a huge part of a relationship. No it's not everything in a relationship, but a huge part, yes. Have you guys ever had a talk about what the other person likes in bed? Or ask each other what you can do differently to please the other? I don't know, maybe I'm just too open about it. But I don't think I'm more open than the next person really. You guys need to learn to be 100% close and open with another. My bf is my best friend. I have to have it that way or else I couldn't be with that person. I have to be able to say what I'm feeling at all times. But who knows, maybe that's just me. Maybe marriage counseling would do you guys some good. Especially given your history.